- Having sex every day.
- Saving sex for your wedding night.
- Never having sex.
- Having sex with different people.
- Having sex with one person.
- Having sex with a person of your same gender.
- Loving sex.
- Hating sex.
- Being loud.
- Being quiet.
The only thing wrong with sex?
When it’s not consensual.
Because that’s not sex. That’s rape.
Reblogging again because this post is so important.
I’ve held off on expressing my thoughts on whether people are born gay or choose to be gay, because, quite honestly, it’s very difficult for me to articulate. I know, that’s a shocker for anyone who knows me, but in this case, it’s true. I am, however, going to finally try to do so, as it has been brought up in many of the conversations I have had with friends and family members today. I apologize in advance, because I know this is not going to even scratch the surface of my opinions on the nature/nurture debate of sexual preference. I also apologize for anything not being expressed fully; if you have any questions or want me to clarify how I feel about anything, please do not hesitate to let me know. I will try to address any questions or concerns to the best of my ability.
I’m just going to throw this out there: I don’t think anyone is born gay. Now, before everyone starts freaking out, I also don’t think anyone is born straight. I bet you weren’t expecting that, were you? I whole-heartedly believe that attraction and sexual preference develop as we age and are not predetermined by genetic programming.
Is there something in my DNA that tells me to want a certain type of man? Of course not. Was I always, from the day I was born, attracted to a certain type of man? Certainly not. Does that mean the kind of man I am attracted to a choice? Not in the slightest.
The biggest problem I have with saying someone is born heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual is that it implies that it is genetically programmed into our being and can be detected before birth. This frightens me tremendously. If this were the case, people could screen their unborn children and terminate the pregnancy based on “genetic markers” associated with sexual preference - of which, none have been found to exist.
As far as one’s sexuality being a choice goes, having worked with individuals that both (a) love and embrace their sexuality and (b) resent and detest themselves for it, I cannot possibly see why someone would choose to be something that sets them up for judgment and possible hatred. Granted, there is no reason that people should make life more difficult on those whose sexual preference differs from their own; however, that doesn’t stop people from doing so.
In my opinion, love is love; it’s not a choice, nor is it genetically predetermined.
The best example, albeit a pretty trivial one, I can think of is the fact that I am extremely opinionated. Is it in my DNA to be opinionated? No. Could I “choose” to stop being opinionated, even if I tried my hardest? Hell no. Am I more or less of a human being because I am opinionated? Of course not. Does my God love me whether or not I am opinionated? Completely, intensely, and without reservation.